"...a disorder that arises primarily in the context of child custody disputes. Its primary manifestation is the child's campaign of denigration against a parent, a campaign that has no justification. It results from the combination of a programming (brainwashing) parent's indoctrinations and the child's own contributions to the vilification of the target parent."
The admissibility of PAS has been rejected by an expert review panel and the Court of Appeal of England and Wales in the United Kingdom. Gardner portrayed PAS as well accepted by the judiciary and having set a variety of precedents, however legal analysis of the actual cases indicates that as of 2006 this claim was incorrect. It is used against mothers and children when they talk about abusive behaviour from the father and is a common tactic of a fathers lawyers to use this allegation, whether by the name PAS or another. Its a set up and traps mothers and children into a Catch 22 situation, so if they continue to talk of abuse or the child refuses or fears contact with the father, they are effectively punished by being forced to see the father alone, or even to live with him. The mother is punished by having to send her child on a regular basis to an abusive and dangerous situation or face losing their child. Loss of residence is frequently used as a threat.
There are now many varied and untested theories on parental alienation, all them just as dangerous. The 'experts' in these theories still recommend 'realignment therapy' in which the child is told they were not abused and are lying or were lied to by their mothers. Many of these children were victims of abuse or the father was abuisve to the mother but as abuse is usually hidden, there is no evidence. There arew also cases where there is evidence but the fathers legal team, judges and Cafcass will sweep this under carpet, to ensure contact happens 'at any cost'. If they continue to talk about abuse, the children experience the shocking trauma of being made to live with the abuser.
To avoid a child being taken away from the loving mother, the only option she has is to support to contact and part-time abuse.
On the Home Page you will see links to articles on PAS. Here are more on the theory
How Parental Alienation Syndrome Is Changing Custody Cases
“If the mother has reacted to the abuse in a hysterical fashion, or used
it as an excuse for a campaign of denigration of the father, then the
therapist does well to try and ‘sober her up’. . . Her hysterics . . .
will contribute to the child’s feeling that a heinous crime has been
committed and will thereby lessen the likelihood of any kind of
rapproachment with the father. One has to do everything possible to help
her put the ‘crime’ in proper perspective. She has to be helped to
appreciate that in most societies in the history of the world, such
behavior was ubiquitous [i.e., everywhere], and this is still the case.”
True and False (pp. 576-7)
“One of the steps that society must take to deal with the present
hysteria is to ‘come off it’ and take a more realistic attitude toward
Sex Abuse Hysteria (p. 120)
“The Draconian punishments meted out to pedophiles go far beyond what I consider to be the gravity of the crime.”
Sex Abuse Hysteria (p. 118)
PAS Is Deeply Flawed
In addition to the lack of any scientific basis to justify PAS, it is an illogical theory that is based on circular reasoning. PAS assumes that if a child does not like the father, is afraid of him and does not wish to spend time with the father the only possible explanation is that the mother is alienating the child.
PAS is based on the biased belief that virtually all reports mothers or
children make about abuse are false. To the extent that there is
anything to support this claim it is that proponents of PAS
automatically disbelieve virtually every report and use their own biased
results to support PAS. In reality, in the context of contested
custody cases, less than two percent of reports by mothers against
fathers are deliberately false. This fact alone should fully discredit PAS. http://nomas.org/parental-alienation-syndrome-hoax-hurts-children/
Dr. Peter Jaffe for speaking out against this Nazi-like “deprogramming”
that is inflicting psychological terror upon little children who are
ripped from their loving parents.
"In the interest of justice to the accused," Dr. Gardner purports that the criteria he uses to determine whether an allegation of sexual abuse is fabricated should err on the side of finding innocent some men who are in fact guilty of child molestation.'
Perverse Reversal of Child Custody placing children at serious risk of harm. 'Richard Ducote an attorney at law in New Orleans stated in 2003 of Gardner and his PAS theory that “PAS is a bogus, pro-paedophiliac fraud concocted by Richard Gardner. I was the last attorney to cross-examine Gardner in Patterson New Jersey.'
"What would a good mother do if her child told her of sexual abuse by his or her father?", asked film produce Garland Waller during a videotaped interview of Richard Gardner for her award-winning documentary, Small Justice. His answer: "What would she say? Don't you say that about your father. If you do, I'll beat you."
It boggles the mind to think that this man's ideas have been more persuasive to some judges and evaluators than the sworn testimony of abused women and children.'
Parental Alienation Syndrome
'As a political advocate, Gardner lobbied to abolish mandated reporting of child abuse, to abolish immunity for reporters of child abuse, and for the creation of federally funded programs to assist individuals claiming to be falsely accused.”
PAS is a Scam
Bravo to Dr. Peter Jaffe for speaking out against this Nazi-like “deprogramming” that is inflicting psychological terror upon little children who are ripped from their loving parents.
Gender Biased and Punitive: Why Abusers Get Away With Claiming “Parental Alienation”
Mothers for Justice video on PAS
'Gardner blames the father's abuse on the mother, who he faults for not fulfilling her husband sexually. He suggests that therapists should help mother's of incest victims achieve sexual gratification. '
Why ‘Parental Alienation’ should not be used as a term
Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) is the base theory used by family courts and was created to help abusers gain residence of their children. The term continues to be used as a means to deny domestic abuse and child abuse. PAS/PA has been a major tactic to remove residence from the healthy parent, then to give residence to the abusive parent in so-called 'high conflict' cases. When the abuser is a father, they are successful 99% of the time. PAS was developed by Richard Gardner who applied his pseudoscience to mothers who were victims of domestic abuse or/and who’s children were abused by the father. Their behaviour was taken as ‘symptoms’ of PA, rather than as being real signs of abuse.
PAS not a recognized mental health disorder or syndrome and it is not recommended or endorsed by the British Psychological Society. It is not recognized as a scientific, is not admissible in court, or a credible construct by legal or psychological experts yet many Judges believe in its existence and increasingly allow 'treatment' often by unlicensed 'therapists'. Such 'treatment' includes trying to brainwash children to believe there was never any abuse and that it was made up by the healthy parent.
Therefore, it is a dangerous term putting children at risk and causing trauma and irreversible damage to them, and their mother. Promotion of this theory should be discouraged.
It is also known by the term 'Implacably Hostile'. It is the same theory in 'legalese' language.
Suggested terms to use instead
When the child is reluctant or refuses to interact with the abuser, it is
Self-Estrangement, Justifiable Rejection or Self-Alienation caused by the abusive parents behaviour.
When the abuser withholds contact of the child and/or manipulates the child against the healthy parent, it is
Domestic/Abuse by Proxy or Proxy Abuse.
They are continuing abuse by using the children usually after residence
has been changed to the father by the courts after accusations of PAS.
Domestic Violence (DV) by Proxy:
Why Terrorist Tactics Employed by Batterers Are Not "PAS"
Control by Proxy
Flying monkeys is a phrase used in popular psychology mainly in the context of narcissistic abuse. They are people who act on behalf of a narcissist to a third party, usually for an abusive purpose.
The phrase has also been used to refer to people who act on behalf of a psychopath for a similar purpose.
Flying monkeys are distinct from enablers. Enablers just allow or cover for the narcissist's (abuser's) own bad behavior.
Flying monkeys can be anyone who believes the narcissist's fake persona including the narcissist's spouse, child, friend, sibling, parents.
Flying monkeys are usually unwittingly manipulated people who believe the smears about the victim although they may be another narcissist working with them or using each other. They can be associates of the abuser or victim and can be authority and institutional figures manipulated to side with the abuser, or siding as abusive personalities themselves.